Honest sharing from Megan Phelps-Roper, who left her family church after she realised that what she and her church have been advocating and practising their whole life is not entirely correct.
The truth is, I didn’t plan on watching this TED talk as I didn’t know how infamous Westboro Baptist Church was. Now that I know, I was glad I did. Megan’s story of how her heated discussions with other people eventually made her see the light somewhat resonated within me as oftentimes, I face or people talking to me have faced similar difficulties before in getting one party to see the other’s views. 4 steps to follow:
1. Don’t assume bad intent
2. Ask questions
3. Stay calm
4. Make the argument
The first 3 steps help condition the mind and keep it open for alternative views, while the last step pushes your case, just in case the other party fails to understand fully exactly why you have the perspective you are having. Simple steps but sometimes really hard to practise. Oftentimes, we let our emotions get the better of us and get carried away, or otherwise get defensive about our position rather than trying to understand the other person. Pitfalls to avoid in maintaining healthy communication channels, especially with your partner.